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Let them know that it takes more courage to walk away from a fight than to stay and fight.
Teach them that fights don't solve problems—they make new ones.
Remind them that when they get mad but don't fight, they have really won.
Get into fights when they are angry.
Get teased a lot.
Encourage others to fight.
This can make your child feel bad or get in trouble. Teach your child how to deal with anger and stay out of trouble.
Anger doesn't usually last a long time, but it is a very strong feeling when it happens.
Their feelings are hurt or they can't do what they want.
Others don't understand them or lie about them.
They feel left out or others don't act the way they want.
Their hearts beat faster and their faces feel hot and sweaty.
It might be hard to breathe and they can't think clearly.
They have a lot of energy and want action.
Good to put their feelings into words.
Not good to hit someone, break things, or say things that hurt.
Acknowledge angry feelings.
Notice changes in their bodies.
Breathe deeply, count to 10, or walk away.
Punch a pillow, run, or play music.
Think about the problem and ways to fix it. If someone doesn't know what children are trying to say or do, they need to explain themselves.
Talk with someone about being mad and ways to fix the problem without fighting. If there is nobody to talk to right away, stop and think,
Keep a safe distance from the other person.
Take slow, deep breaths.
Stay alert and stand tall.
Avoid name-calling or returning insults. It only makes things worse.
Avoid other kids who may want to fight. Try to talk in private with the kid who wants to fight.
Calmly listen to what the other kid says.
Find ways to solve the problem without fighting.
Give a reason.
Walk away. If nothing else works, it's best to walk away.
Children do what they see others do. You are your child's most important role model.
If your child is still having trouble getting along with other kids, talk with your pediatrician.
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